Breaking up with somebody with whom you have shared the same bed and a range of emotions is certainly very difficult, and regardless of the reason, you always want to minimize the impact of the break up on the other one, if you truly cared about them. One thing is for sure: no matter how gently you try to put it, it will still affect your partner to a certain extent – however, it is entirely up to you to determine to which extent.
There are several “safety precautions” that you can take in order to make the break up as easy to handle as possible, and here you will find eight simple yet respectful and polite ways to tell your soon-to-be ex girlfriend or boyfriend that the two of you are done, and that you need to go separate ways:1. Don’t Put The Blame Only On The Other One
No matter if your spouse has cheated on you or if the two of you have communication problems, it is crucial to understand that it is almost never the other one’s fault alone. In a relationship or marriage, the blame is usually “shared”, each one of the two parties has a fair share of blame and things are never simple. You might be tempted to put the blame only on your husband or wife, but it is important to try and be as objective as possible. In the end, this will make things easier for both of you.
2. Don’t Leave Any Open Doors If You Are Not Interested In Staying Friends With Your Ex
Another very common mistake that people tend to make when they try to break up with their spouse or lover is that they tend to leave open doors – there is a very thin line between leaving opening doors and making the other one believe there actually is a slight chance for the two of you to get back together, stay friends or to become friends with occasional benefits, and between breaking up for good.
That being said, if you are really not interested in keeping in touch with your current partner once you break up, try to make that very clear. Put it gently and don’t forget that your partner is human and has feelings, but at the same time be very clear and concise about it. If you leave open doors, then the other one will always try to befriend you – if you do not want that to happen and you will reject his or her friendship, you will only end up hurting your partner twice! Therefore, save both of you some time, trouble and heartache and discuss the matter openly and truthfully.